Love in the Right Place

Let this be written for a future generation, that a people not yet created may praise the LORD. -Psalm 102:18


The truth is simple. There IS a greater kind of love out there.

It is, however, not the type we can find by surfing on the same wave everyone else is- dating around and jumping from one relationship to another. A select few of us have had this figured out since day one. Others found out the hard way. For the rest? Well... let's just say some of us need a little shove in the right direction, to realize that there is another way, aside from the commonly taken road.

So here’s the idea. Let’s all post stories of our past relationships; not to reminisce or revisit times when we cried or felt betrayed, but to share our stories about looking for love in all the wrong places and finding fulfillment where we least expected it.

If a certain post touches you, the only thing we ask is that you share it with your friends, so they too can be blessed by the work of the real Author, who orchestrated these plots that we may put them to paper. And if we can make a difference in ONE life through this blog, then we will have reached our goal. :)

What do you think? Good idea? Feel free to post a comment, share your story, a picture, a song or whatever original masterpiece you can come up with. :)

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40 Days of Love - Day 39: Forget The Ideal, Go For The Real

Point to Ponder: We make an idol out of the ideal.

Verse to Remember: So here’s what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life- your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life- and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him (Romans 12:1).

Question to Consider: Has some idealized image been keeping me from the great things God wants to do in my life and relationships?

————————————————————————————————-source: The Relationship Principles of Jesus by Tom Holladay


40 Days of Love - Day 38: Love Your Enemies

Point to Ponder: When someone is trying to take from you, surprise them and decide to give to them.

Verse to Remember: God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ dies for us (Romans 5:8).

Question to Consider: Have I asked God for the strength to act with love toward someone who is treating me as an enemy?

When God calls us to love our enemies, he doesn’t mean that we act like cowardly sissies. In fact, choosing to love is an act of courage. It takes courage to choose love over revenge (turning the other cheek when someone slaps you -Matt. 5:38-42). It takes courage to hope that doing so will wake him up and cause him to change. It takes courage to decide that even if he doesn’t change, you will not allow his insult to turn you into an insulting person.

Choose to love like God, one relationship at a time.


source: The Relationship Principles of Jesus by Tom Holladay


40 Days of Love - Day 37: Love Is Sacrificial

Point to Ponder: Love is not reciprocal; love is sacrificial.

Verse to Remember: Try to show as much compassion as your Father does (Luke 3:36).

Question to Consider: What have I found that helps me get my eyes off the reasons sacrificial love won’t work and on the only one who can motivate a new kind of love in me?

2 Things That Must Happen For You To Live Out The GOLDEN RULE:

1) Someone has to give you the power. -Check. This has already been done by Jesus. Don’t let your imperfections keep you from starting on this path. Jesus wouldn’t have taught us this if he wasn’t willing to give us the power to live it.

2) Take the first step on that path. -God gave you the freedom to decide. Sure, its scary. We all have fears. But until you trust him with your fears, you’re not going anywhere. God’s love is so much greater than all your fears. If you never take the first step, you’ll never experience how much greater his love truly is.


source: The Relationship Principles of Jesus by Tom Holladay


40 Days of Love - Day 36: The Big Question

Point to Ponder: I must give myself to meeting others’ needs if I’m going to get my own needs met.

Verse to Remember: Do for others what you would like them to do for you (Matthew 7:12).

Question to Consider: Who can I thank God for so that I can grab the initiative in meeting his or her needs?

Sometimes, you find yourself in a standoff, when you refuse to move first because you don’t want to be the first one to give in. So how can you break free from this and make your relationship grow? Begin by thanking God for the other person. Find something- even a small thing- about them for which you can be thankful. Your heart becomes open to meet others’ needs when you are thankful for them.


source: The Relationship Principles of Jesus by Tom Holladay


40 Days of Love - Day 35: The Daily Decision of Humility

Point to Ponder: Don’t try to feel humble; act humble.

Verse to Remember: I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me (Philippians 4:13).

Question to Consider: Is there an ugly point of pride that I have been ignoring in my life?

Humility is not thinking less of myself; it is thinking more of others.

Humility is not putting myself down; it is lifting God up.

Humility is not denying my strength; it is being openly honest about my weaknesses.

humility is seeing that without Christ, I can do nothing, but in Christ i can do all things!


source: The Relationship Principles of Jesus by Tom Holladay


40 Days of Love - Day 34: Vine and Branches

Point to Ponder: I am a branch.

Verse to Remember: Yes, I am the vine; you are the branches. Those who remain in me, and I in them, will produce much fruit. For apart from me you can do nothing (John 15:5).

Question to Consider: Have I been viewing God’s work in my life as punishing me when in reality he has been pruning me?


source: The Relationship Principles of Jesus by Tom Holladay


40 Days of Love - Day 33: How Humility Handles Our Relationship With God

Point to Ponder: Your relationship with God is either growing in trust or sliding toward do-it-yourself religion.

Verse to Remember: Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest (Matthew 11:28).

Question to Consider: How do I need to confess my needs in prayer and depend on God to meet my needs today?

Warning Signs of Self-Dependence

1. You become confident in yourself. -“God is lucky to have me as a follower” mindset

2. You become condemning of others. -You become self-righteous and find it easy to judge others for faults instead of helping them rise above.

3. You become content with externals. -You’ve become content with the trappings of religion (tithing, fasting) and that’s all there is left to your faith.


source: The Relationship Principles of Jesus by Tom Holladay


40 Days of Love - Day 32: How Humility Handles Our Tendency To Compare

Point to Ponder: Jesus didn’t just say, “Be satisfied if you’re given the lowest seat”; he said, “Take the lowest place.”

Verse to Remember: We do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise (2 Corinthians 10:12).

Question to Consider: Have I ever been willing to take the lowest place? When I did, what happened?

In today’s word, we equate being first with being greatest.  But Jesus taught us that greatness is not a matter of winning a competition. It’s a matter of humbly living the life God gave you to live. He’s more concerned with whom you’re helping to cross the finish line with you, than whether you get to it before anyone else.

Not to say that being competitive is wrong. If God made you that way, you were wired to be competitive about the things that are truly important, such as beating world hunger, being the best husband/wife, sister/brother.

God is faithful to use those who stop worrying about who is the greatest. You are where you are because there is something God wants you to do in your life in this particular spot. Let Him use you.


source: The Relationship Principles of Jesus by Tom Holladay


40 Days of Love - Day 31: How Humility Handles Our Need To Be Noticed

Point to Ponder: The only way to be cured of the need to be noticed is to begin noticing other people’s needs.

Verse to Remember: Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves (Romans 12:10).

Question to Consider: What seemingly small need can I meet for someone else today?

"I Wonder" by Ruth Harms Calkin

You know, Lord, how I serve you

With great emotional fervor in the limelight

You know how eagerly I speak for you at a Women’s Club

You know my genuine enthusiasm at a Bible study.

But how would I react, I wonder,

If you pointed to a basin of water

And asked me to wash the calloused feet

Of a bent and wrinkled old woman

Day after day, month after month,

In a room where nobody saw and nobody knew?


source: The Relationship Principles of Jesus by Tom Holladay


40 Days of Love - Day 30: How Humility Handles Ambition

Point to Ponder: True greatness is depending on God.

Verse to Remember: Whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven (Matthew 18:4).

Question to Consider: Am I demanding something of myself or others for which I should be depending on God?

It’s not wrong to have ambitions. In fact, many biblical characters were driven by Godly ambition. Abraham, Noah, David, even Jesus. These ambitions are put in our hearts by God and are all part of His plan.

Here are three reasons why we should all have great ambitions:

1) We are created by God. His ambition is that every part of creation lives out the purpose for which it was fashioned.

2) We are given responsibility over this world. In Gen 1:28, God gave us a mandate to “Fill the earth and subdue it…” 

3) We are made to reflect God’s image in this world. Not only did He create us and make us responsible for the world, He also made us to reflect His image!

So if you have a plan or idea that grows out of the humble recognition that you are God’s creation who is given responsibility for this world and desires to reflect his image, go for it!


source: The Relationship Principles of Jesus by Tom Holladay